Posts made in April, 2012

The English des Québécois

Posted by on 21 Apr, 2012 in Canada | 81 comments

Next Cash Please

Since I moved here three years ago, I’ve been intrigued to listen to the way Montréalers speak. I’ve previously written about my experiences living in a bilingual city, and the bizarre experience of conversations switching back and forth between languages effortlessly.

As a settled Montrealer, having grown in confidence and ability with my French, I find myself doing it too, especially since I started my current job – where the staff are mostly francophones but the business is mostly in English. Most of my daily conversations involve a hybrid of French and English to some degree.

But what I find quite unique is the experience of being in a linguistic minority.

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The Liberation of Separation

Posted by on 12 Apr, 2012 in Relationships | 3 comments

                                  “Find a girl, settle down,
                                   If you want you can marry…

                                  Take your time; think a lot,
                                  Why, think of everything you’ve got.
                                  For you’ll still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.”

                                                                                                 — Cat Stevens, “Father and Son”

One thing they don’t tell you about divorce is that it makes you question everything. Not just your choice of life partner, but life itself.

If love is the certainty that you have found “the one”, and marriage is the public expression of that certainty, then the failure of a marriage calls everything into question. You find yourself wondering how you could have been so wrong, and questioning whether you can ever be certain about anything again.

I have never thought of myself as a man of faith, and certainly never religious. Yet the mental journey I have taken since separation has made me realise my life has been guided by faith. Not the sort of faith that is expressed through prayers, worship and organised religion, but something much simpler – faith as holding an idea in your head and letting it guide you.

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