Posts Tagged "life happiness"
The Liberation of Separation
“Find a girl, settle down,
If you want you can marry…
Take your time; think a lot,
Why, think of everything you’ve got.
For you’ll still be here tomorrow, but your dreams may not.”
— Cat Stevens, “Father and Son”
One thing they don’t tell you about divorce is that it makes you question everything. Not just your choice of life partner, but life itself.
If love is the certainty that you have found “the one”, and marriage is the public expression of that certainty, then the failure of a marriage calls everything into question. You find yourself wondering how you could have been so wrong, and questioning whether you can ever be certain about anything again.
I have never thought of myself as a man of faith, and certainly never religious. Yet the mental journey I have taken since separation has made me realise my life has been guided by faith. Not the sort of faith that is expressed through prayers, worship and organised religion, but something much simpler – faith as holding an idea in your head and letting it guide you.
Read MoreTen things I miss about Montreal
My strange start to 2012 has given me plenty of perspective on my life, as well as helping me to learn what’s important in my life, it’s also helping me to figure out what things I value. Which brings me to this, ten things I miss about Montreal, in descending order of importance:
- Movie night and all my movie night friends
- The Writers’ Bloc writers group where i get my fortnightly writer’s kick.
- Working face to face with my coworkers
Is home where the heart is?
Well, here we are two weeks into 2012. 2012! A date that sounds so incredibly futuristic I am surprised I am not writing this by talking to my computer or travelling to work in an electric self-driving car. Although of course these things are almost possible now.
Anyway, as one of my New Year’s resolutions, I am going to try once again to do a series of regular informal journal-type posts every couple of weeks. This time, not so much about relationships, more just about my life as I try and figure out a new direction. 2012 will be a year of triangulation I think, as I adjust my heading and set course towards a new future, whatever that might be.
It’s been an odd start to the year. My 2012 Canadian work visa, applied for in early November, has not yet been issued by Quebec, and so having returned to the UK for Christmas, I am now unable to return to Canada. I expect it to be processed and to get back to Montreal some time before the end of January, but in the meantime, I have had to build myself a sort of temporary life here in the UK for a few (who knows how many) weeks.
Read MoreThis is your life
An inspiring message about how to live your life:
You can find this poster here.
Read MoreTime for a reboot
Sometimes, the path reaches a dead end, and you have to turn back…
You know when your computer’s been running for a long time and everything starts to get really sluggish? You can still do all your usual tasks but everything is a real effort, it becomes hard work to do even the simplest of things. It’s like running through treacle.
In these situations, there reaches a point where you have to reboot. You’ll have to spend a fair bit of time getting everything loaded back up and working just the way you like it, but hopefully after that you will be able to return to normal operations, and be effective and productive again as you go about your business.
Well sometimes, that can happen in a marriage too.
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